Thank you for your tip. I need these to look very realistic for the website we sell them in. I started with a headboard with white primer and I was give the task to color them. I have tried the bevel and emboss tool before but it doesn't look realistic to me.
if you start with this white board , you can try other blend-modes and see if that would work better
for example "color burn" mode leaves much more highlights but messes with the color
but in combination with an extra layer with mode 'color' you get the right color
and with level - adjustment layer you can give more highlights or less