Very well said, how do i pull it back a little?Yep.............your a little crazy!
The 2nd adjustment in post #6 looked the best. You should have stopped there.
I think you also have too much of a blur on the background. Too much blur causes the subject to stand off and look pasted on. Pull it back just a little.
Well..................if you didn't convert the background image to a smart object and use a smart filter....................then you will have to discard the current background layer and and bring in a new one (that's not blurred).how do i pull it back a little?
Wish i knew that before. So i did the whole thing, again. Anyway here is the end resultThe idea is to use Non-destructive Editing.
So let's use a Smart Object with Smart Filters so we can edit anytime we like.
Place your mouse cursor over the body of the layer you would like to convert (marked by the red X) then right click and choose "Convert to Smart Object".
Now any filter you add to the Smart Object layer will be adjustable.
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